The other day, a friend and I were having a conversation about dating…she said to me:
”I wish I had your sex appeal.” I looked at her surprised and said: “I have SEX APPEAL?!” We laughed and went on with our conversation.
But, it started me thinking…how many of us don’t see the beautiful powerful things in ourselves that others see in us? And how do we get to the place that we DO see it?
A few nights ago, a friend came into my bedroom, as I was getting ready for a date. I was still in my bra and panties. (She was helping me pick the perfect top for the date). She said suddenly: “You have SUCH a cute butt! You totally have a thong butt!”
(I had on matching bra and panties…obviously a thong…lol)
This time, I said: “ I like my butt!” And we laughed.
(For those of you that don’t know me…I am a curvy woman…we were not talking about a tiny “size two” butt…just for the record!)
It had started me thinking…less than five years ago, I was really just an unhappy fat woman. Sometime in the past three years, something happened to me. I have somehow moved toward loving and accepting my body and myself…I remembered somehow, what it meant to FEEL beautiful. JUST how I am. Imperfect, loud, open, honest, sexual, fat, moody, busy, and the thousands of other words I could use…but at the end of the day, I am simply…. Me.
One of my dear friends put a name to it a few years ago…She called it “Living Authentically”.
I am not sure how or what the plan is yet, but I would love other women to feel it so we can create it for others.
I decided to share some of the small yet powerful changes I have made…in hopes of allowing other women find their own path to a more authentic life, and toward liking their own butts. J
Have you ever noticed how beautiful a woman is when she has that twinkle in her eye of: “I have a secret. And no one has to know.” She has that inner, sexy glow.
I want every woman to remember the power that comes from feeling grounded and sexy at the same time. For the next few weeks, I will be presenting small ideas for each of us to try and consider. I am going to put out little blurbs about how to get your home, and consequently yourself, feeling more peaceful and sacred.
Part of Claiming Your Inner Goddess is FEELING good, about yourself, your looks, your relationships, your home, and your life.
It is my hope to inspire women to make changes that allow us to feel strong, peaceful and more aware.
Lesson one: Clutter and little secrets. Creating sacred space: body and home.
I love my house.
(A moment for a special public shout out in gratitude to Candy and Paula for blessing the lives of my children and I by allowing us to take care of this amazing home.)
I may not do everything perfectly, but I think I do a few things well. One of them is creating a clean home that FEELS good to be in. That means things are organized, inside of the drawers and closets as well. J
I am going to take baby steps here…it took me a while to feel this…(don’t tell anyone, but I used to be a MAJOR pack rat! Clutter EVERYWHERE.)
Now, with a little time invested and some great energy tools…my home is a sacred place, for my family and friends.
It starts one room at a time guys…stop, take a breath…you can do this!
(Or you can pay me to help you. J )
I am going to provide a list of ideas to create sacred space in your homes.
And I will also offer my services to come to your home and help you create it there!
So --- here we go!
While we all know that we want our ENTIRE home perfect, clutter free and peaceful, for many of us this goal seems insurmountable…so lets start with one thing at a time.
We are going to start with the bedroom.
Step one. The skin out. And just a few drawers. (You can DO IT!)
Go through your dresser drawers. Pull out all of the ratty, mismatched bras and panties.
If you don’t like the wear them and leave them in the drawer until all of your laundry is dirty and they are the last pair…TOSS THEM!
If you are a cotton gal and you have a bunch of silky panties you hate…THROW THEM AWAY! (Or donate them.).
If you bought thongs but simply hate them…throw them out.
If you only have granny panties…PLEASE, I IMPLORE you…toss them!
(You can keep three pairs for “off days” J )
Now, do the same with your bras. That ONE adorable bra that you are waiting to grow into…(up or down) you can keep…otherwise, pick your two favorites and send the rest to the good will pile!
Continue through all of your drawers.
Do you REALLY need 25 pairs of socks?
What about that pair of jeans in your bottom drawer…the ones you are saving for when you loose 25 pounds?
What about that stupid ratty t-shirt that you call pajamas?
Or…the PAINTING clothes, the bathrobe that is too small, that pile of workout clothes you stuffed into the drawers, you know the drawers I am talking about…pull every piece out of the dresser…look at it…really…when you loose 25 pounds - will you wear THOSE, or need a new pair because they are so hopelessly outdated?
Be fierce with yourself.
If you haven’t worn it in the last 6 months (other than a few seasonal items.) GET RID OF IT!!! It is taking up space and creating clutter…yes, even if it is stuffed inside of the drawer…. its still clutter.
Put everything in neat piles in your drawers…see the SPACE?
Ok now…look at your remaining bras and panties.
When you put them on in the morning, do you FEEL sexy?
Do they MATCH? (I want you to honestly consider how much sexier you feel with a sexy matching bra and panties? Your little secret, under your clothes)
If you don’t have a weeks worth of panties and a couple of GREAT bras that match…
GO SHOPPING!!!
If you are in a relationship – TAKE YOUR LOVER WITH YOU!!!
If you are not in a relationship, take your best friend.
Schedule a date.
Go buy new underwear. MATCHING bras and panties.
You don’t have to replace your entire bra and panty wardrobe all at once…but START!!!
When you come home with your new panties, organize that drawer. Fold the panties where you can SEE them, don’t cram them into the space so you will forget about the new ones and go to the ratty ones in desperation.
THERE…you organized the last drawers!!!
Now, each morning, (or the night before for a more peaceful morning,) lay out a matching bra and panty set for the next morning…and your outfit to go over it.
When you get dressed in the morning, look in the mirror…and tell me, really tell me…don’t you feel sexier?
It’s your little secret…a pair of sexy panties under those ratty jeans. A lacey bra that makes you feel sexy and confident, no matter what your outer clothing, it will show, that little twinkle in your eye that says “I am sexy and you don’t get to see it!”
Knowing that your dresser is cleaned out…no one sees it but you…but YOU know…and feel it.
It’s worth the effort.
I promise.
There…
You are done for the day…if you do this, the results will be two fold.
You have succeeded have releasing clutter and therefore, allowed space to welcome the part of your inner Goddess that has a secret.
(and you have put your own "cute butt" in cute panties. :-)
You have put your inner sexy Goddess in panties that make her have a twinkle in here eye.
All of the work you just did will be hidden…your little secret.
But can you feel the results?
