Making Space to BECOME

In the measurement world, we set a goal and strive to achieve it.

In the universe of possibility, we set the context and let life unfold.

~B. Zander

A few years ago, one of my dear friends was coming into town to do a few days of energy work sessions. I had a good friend that needed a session but could not afford it, so I gifted her a session. She was skeptical and leery…but went in with an open mind.

After the session, I went over and asked her: “ How do you FEEL?”…

She took a moment to think and feel then looked up and replied:

“I feel like…. Now…. I have SPACE.”

I asked her what she meant and she told me that after doing this clearing work she felt as if there were FINALY room to grow and progress…the SPACE to move forward.

I have thought about that conversation many times since that day.

We all talk about and strive to “manifest” or “attract” the things / thoughts / beliefs / situations we crave…but what are we RELEASING so that there is SPACE to receive these things we are so desperately calling into our existences? What are we letting go of so beautiful, powerful, NEW things, experiences, knowledge etc. can come in.

Lets go really basic in our thought process for a moment. Lets say you have a piggy bank, and every day you empty your pockets, carefully placing every single penny in the bank. You carefully and with great dedication FILL the bank full of pennies…wow! What an accomplishment!

BUT -- what happens when all of the sudden, you are no longer receiving pennies…instead; there are QUARTERS coming in…or better yet, GOLD DOLLARS? Here comes all of these things you have been working toward, manifesting and attracting…but your bank is so full of pennies that there is no room to keep them.

(And don’t say you would just get another piggy bank…FEEL my analogy here! Grin)

What do you need to do to make space for the bigger, better things that are coming in? You get rid of the pennies!

Life is meant to be an ebb and flow. We receive things in, and we release things out.

We cannot hoard or save for a better day. We are asked to SPEND it…to let it go, to someone else that needs it.

If you are working on creating or attracting a beautiful new wardrobe, (or new sexy panties, right? *laugh) the FIRST thing you need to do is clean out your closet and drawers…so there is ROOM for the new beautiful things you are seeking…RIGHT?

If you are manifesting a new body, you have to get rid of old thought patterns and beliefs about food and exercise…right? That way there is ROOM for new ideas, lifestyle and a new body to COME IN!

If you are working on becoming the woman you want to be…you have to be prepared to release some things.

So my question for today is:

What do YOU need to release to allow “space” to become the woman you want to be?

Thought processes? Beliefs about yourself or others? Habits? Anger? Resentment? Shame? Guilt?

My challenge to us all is to let go of the empty things that fill us so we have SPACE to BECOME.

Take out the trash…make Space.

I Learned...

I spent much of the past weekend reflecting. Quietly waiting for confirmation of my next steps, remembering that I don’t have to KNOW my steps- I just have to have faith to TAKE them.

I created sacred space at my home in the form of a fire pit, we harvested pecans from our beautiful pecan tree, we rested and we soaked in the cool sunlight with friends.

I had an extra day with my kiddos this weekend, which meant we played speed rounds of a new board game and laughed until we held our ribs.

I had intended to write a blog on "Being Gentle"... and to ask who actually CLEANED their underwear drawer...But I will be gentle and NOT ask...*laugh* If you want to tell me your empowering story, I am OPEN though.

However, due to the fact that I was covered in kisses, wood smoke and chocolate for much of the day...*grin* this weeks blog will be something I wrote at the first of the year, as part of a mantra for myself.

I learned:

I learned that we can create our own chaos.

I will create my own peace.

I learned that sometimes, it takes something big to shake people. And sometimes the smallest things can challenge that same person to the core.

I will work on listening when the message is quiet so Spirit doesn't have to yell so loud at me.

I learned that I am surrounded by miracles. I learned that I am a miracle.

I will allow space for unlimited miracles to flow into my life.

I learned that good friends don’t have to live in the same city to come to your side.

I will be a better friend. I will take less and give more.

I learned that sometimes, there is growth and compassion, and sometimes nothing changes.

I will remove judgment and labeling of "good and bad" from my thought process.

I learned that I have the inherent right to dream big. Astoundingly BIG.

I will share my dream and stand in a place of beauty to change the world through strengthening women to believe that there is literally royalty in them.

I learned that we are not physical beings having a spiritual experience, but that we are Spiritual Beings having a physical experience.

I will treasure all of the things about this experience, and let my soul breathe.

I learned that "sexy" is psychological and that "smart" is sexy. That when love stares you in the face, you will know. And that I am just as pretty bare faced and hair in a pony tail as I am when I am dressed to the nines ready to go out to a restaurant.

I will be perfectly content in my own skin, alone or with a partner, and I will allow Spirit to direct my evolution.

All while I wear pretty panties and have a clutter free home. *big cheesy grin*

Startin' on the Hidden Things

The other day, a friend and I were having a conversation about dating…she said to me:
”I wish I had your sex appeal.” I looked at her surprised and said: “I have SEX APPEAL?!” We laughed and went on with our conversation.

But, it started me thinking…how many of us don’t see the beautiful powerful things in ourselves that others see in us? And how do we get to the place that we DO see it?

A few nights ago, a friend came into my bedroom, as I was getting ready for a date. I was still in my bra and panties. (She was helping me pick the perfect top for the date). She said suddenly: “You have SUCH a cute butt! You totally have a thong butt!”
(I had on matching bra and panties…obviously a thong…lol)
This time, I said: “ I like my butt!” And we laughed.

(For those of you that don’t know me…I am a curvy woman…we were not talking about a tiny “size two” butt…just for the record!)

It had started me thinking…less than five years ago, I was really just an unhappy fat woman. Sometime in the past three years, something happened to me. I have somehow moved toward loving and accepting my body and myself…I remembered somehow, what it meant to FEEL beautiful. JUST how I am. Imperfect, loud, open, honest, sexual, fat, moody, busy, and the thousands of other words I could use…but at the end of the day, I am simply…. Me.

One of my dear friends put a name to it a few years ago…She called it “Living Authentically”.

I am not sure how or what the plan is yet, but I would love other women to feel it so we can create it for others.

I decided to share some of the small yet powerful changes I have made…in hopes of allowing other women find their own path to a more authentic life, and toward liking their own butts. J

Have you ever noticed how beautiful a woman is when she has that twinkle in her eye of: “I have a secret. And no one has to know.” She has that inner, sexy glow.

I want every woman to remember the power that comes from feeling grounded and sexy at the same time. For the next few weeks, I will be presenting small ideas for each of us to try and consider. I am going to put out little blurbs about how to get your home, and consequently yourself, feeling more peaceful and sacred.

Part of Claiming Your Inner Goddess is FEELING good, about yourself, your looks, your relationships, your home, and your life.

It is my hope to inspire women to make changes that allow us to feel strong, peaceful and more aware.

Lesson one: Clutter and little secrets. Creating sacred space: body and home.

I love my house.

(A moment for a special public shout out in gratitude to Candy and Paula for blessing the lives of my children and I by allowing us to take care of this amazing home.)

I may not do everything perfectly, but I think I do a few things well. One of them is creating a clean home that FEELS good to be in. That means things are organized, inside of the drawers and closets as well. J

I am going to take baby steps here…it took me a while to feel this…(don’t tell anyone, but I used to be a MAJOR pack rat! Clutter EVERYWHERE.)

Now, with a little time invested and some great energy tools…my home is a sacred place, for my family and friends.

It starts one room at a time guys…stop, take a breath…you can do this!
(Or you can pay me to help you. J )

I am going to provide a list of ideas to create sacred space in your homes.
And I will also offer my services to come to your home and help you create it there!

So --- here we go!

While we all know that we want our ENTIRE home perfect, clutter free and peaceful, for many of us this goal seems insurmountable…so lets start with one thing at a time.

We are going to start with the bedroom.

Step one. The skin out. And just a few drawers. (You can DO IT!)

Go through your dresser drawers. Pull out all of the ratty, mismatched bras and panties.
If you don’t like the wear them and leave them in the drawer until all of your laundry is dirty and they are the last pair…TOSS THEM!
If you are a cotton gal and you have a bunch of silky panties you hate…THROW THEM AWAY! (Or donate them.).
If you bought thongs but simply hate them…throw them out.
If you only have granny panties…PLEASE, I IMPLORE you…toss them!
(You can keep three pairs for “off days” J )

Now, do the same with your bras. That ONE adorable bra that you are waiting to grow into…(up or down) you can keep…otherwise, pick your two favorites and send the rest to the good will pile!

Continue through all of your drawers.
Do you REALLY need 25 pairs of socks?
What about that pair of jeans in your bottom drawer…the ones you are saving for when you loose 25 pounds?
What about that stupid ratty t-shirt that you call pajamas?
Or…the PAINTING clothes, the bathrobe that is too small, that pile of workout clothes you stuffed into the drawers, you know the drawers I am talking about…pull every piece out of the dresser…look at it…really…when you loose 25 pounds - will you wear THOSE, or need a new pair because they are so hopelessly outdated?

Be fierce with yourself.

If you haven’t worn it in the last 6 months (other than a few seasonal items.) GET RID OF IT!!! It is taking up space and creating clutter…yes, even if it is stuffed inside of the drawer…. its still clutter.

Put everything in neat piles in your drawers…see the SPACE?

Ok now…look at your remaining bras and panties.

When you put them on in the morning, do you FEEL sexy?

Do they MATCH? (I want you to honestly consider how much sexier you feel with a sexy matching bra and panties? Your little secret, under your clothes)

If you don’t have a weeks worth of panties and a couple of GREAT bras that match…
GO SHOPPING!!!
If you are in a relationship – TAKE YOUR LOVER WITH YOU!!!
If you are not in a relationship, take your best friend.
Schedule a date.
Go buy new underwear. MATCHING bras and panties.

You don’t have to replace your entire bra and panty wardrobe all at once…but START!!!

When you come home with your new panties, organize that drawer. Fold the panties where you can SEE them, don’t cram them into the space so you will forget about the new ones and go to the ratty ones in desperation.

THERE…you organized the last drawers!!!

Now, each morning, (or the night before for a more peaceful morning,) lay out a matching bra and panty set for the next morning…and your outfit to go over it.

When you get dressed in the morning, look in the mirror…and tell me, really tell me…don’t you feel sexier?

It’s your little secret…a pair of sexy panties under those ratty jeans. A lacey bra that makes you feel sexy and confident, no matter what your outer clothing, it will show, that little twinkle in your eye that says “I am sexy and you don’t get to see it!”
Knowing that your dresser is cleaned out…no one sees it but you…but YOU know…and feel it.
It’s worth the effort.
I promise.

There…
You are done for the day…if you do this, the results will be two fold.

You have succeeded have releasing clutter and therefore, allowed space to welcome the part of your inner Goddess that has a secret.
(and you have put your own "cute butt" in cute panties. :-)

You have put your inner sexy Goddess in panties that make her have a twinkle in here eye.

All of the work you just did will be hidden…your little secret.
But can you feel the results?